7 Apologetic Questions Parents and Pastors Need to Be Asking Students

As a parent and youth leader, I continue to think that one of the most difficult (if not the most difficult) part of raising disciples of Jesus is bridging the gap between church, home, school, and social activities. You know the conversations. 

Me: “Hey honey, so what happened in church today?” 

Kid: “Eh, nothing much. I got a high score in Mario Cart.” 

Me: “Did you talk about Jesus?” 

Kid: “Well, duh, it was church.” 

Then I roll my eyes in exhaustion, we arrive at home, get lunch, and before long, the day is lost. What if we could have greater intentionality in how we have conversations with our kids. What if those conversations could actually help to prepare them for the road ahead—kind of an apologetics on the run. I am here to tell you that it is so entirely possible. 

I know, I am a perpetual optimist, but most parents are desperate for ways to talk to their kids about their faith, politics, daily events, and news. And if they just had a way in, a conversation starter, imagine what might happen in the lives of those students. After all, the primary disciple maker in a child’s life was designed to be a parent. We should empower them where and when we can. 

How have your beliefs changed over the last year or two?

For better or worse, it is important to get a gauge on where your students are in their journey. But don’t leave the question there. Ask why they have changed (or not changed). What factors have impacted the change? Are there any questions that remain? Often our student’s beliefs are formed from emotions. Continue to help them form what they believe and why through reason rather than emotion. 

In what ways have you struggled with your faith recently? What would your faith in Christ look like if you had all of your questions answered?

It is important to remember that we all have our doubts. However, it is more important that we learn to express those doubts. Be sure to foster the home as a safe place for students to express doubts without judgment or condemnation. Often the best way to make that happen is to express your doubt first.

How can you deal with the objections science raise in regards to religion?

Faith and science are not opposites, enemies, or even frienemies. Instead, science has the potential to give us greater faith. This volatile relationship is often perpetuated within students’ classrooms and can prove to be a constant sore spot. Ask your students to explore how they might look for evidence of God in the secular science books they use in school every day. 

What would it take? How much evidence would be enough to either believe or solidify your current belief in God?

For the last ten years or so, a common way to assert belief in God without following Jesus has been coined, Moral Therapeutic Deism. Sort of using God (or the idea of God) as the means of affirming what a “good person” is or help during hard times—a genie in a bottle so to speak. What would it take to be all in?

How would you explain or help a person struggling with pain, suffering, or the presence of evil in their lives? 

The question of evil continues to be the number one question among students—in large part because the problem of evil affects all people on all kinds of fronts. Students are dealing with so much more than most of us ever did. Not only how are they handling pain, suffering, and evil; but how are they helping others, and how do they see God in that picture?

How would you respond to those who argue that the Bible is nothing more than mythical tales with no historical value or credibility? 

I continue to tell students that I think the evidence for the New Testament is one of the most compelling evidence for Christianity. Many continue to cast the Bible aside as irrelevant and useless in our modern world. Challenge them to consider the consequences of trusting the New Testament from it being a historically accurate document as well as spiritually authoritative.

How would you steer a conversation about Jesus as a great teacher to a conversation about Jesus as the divine Son of God? 

Most people (although certainly not all) now accept Jesus as a historical figure that made a great impact on our world. To many, he is a great moral teacher or some kind of religious sage. What would it mean in their world to fully commit to the life Jesus has called them to?

Want to dive deeper and do even more for your parents? My book, The Truth Is, is available in paperback and ebook

Published by stevenmkozak

Steve has been an experienced and dedicated youth ministry and non-profit leader for more than 15 years. Steve has taught in the classroom, local church, and parachurch organizations. Steve holds a masters degree in theology from Moody Theological Seminary and a masters in Christian apologetics from Biola University. He speaks and writes on youth ministry, youth culture and apologetics. He resides in northern Indiana with his wife and four children.

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